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SPECIALIZING IN anxiety, people pleasing TENDENCIES, attachment issues, self-esteem, relationships, and intergenerational Trauma
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Hey there! I'm Lisa. If you’re reading this, you’re probably thinking about investing in yourself or someone you love and I want to say - that’s beautiful.
Through my own 15+ years being on and off in therapy, I have taken the traits I liked the most about my therapists and hope to provide you with them.
I typically work with Asian Americans, people of color, and the LGBTQIA+ community who struggle with people-pleasing, anxiety, depression, internalized and/or externalized anger, and has difficulty managing their feelings in a healthy manner. They often have experienced childhood trauma, felt like they grew up too fast, and were frequently labeled as "different," "difficult," the "black sheep," the "burden," the "caretaker," or the "therapist".
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Does this sound like you?
You find yourself stuck in a cycle of feeling angry, resentful, invalidated, betraying what you really want time and time again, constantly choosing others over your own well-being. Then the guilt hits - "Oh my gosh, I'm a terrible person. This is not okay; how could I even think that?" You have been disconnected from yourself for so long that your deepest desire is to reconnect with yourself and find peace.
My typical client seeks a more authentic relationship with themselves and others without compromising their own well-being and peace, but they don't know how to achieve it.
You find yourself stuck in a cycle of feeling angry, resentful, invalidated, betraying what you really want time and time again, constantly choosing others over your own well-being. Then the guilt hits - "Oh my gosh, I'm a terrible person. This is not okay; how could I even think that?" You have been disconnected from yourself for so long that your deepest desire is to reconnect with yourself and find peace.
My typical client seeks a more authentic relationship with themselves and others without compromising their own well-being and peace, but they don't know how to achieve it.
Life is busy. Your time is valuable, and therapy is expensive. If you can, you'd like to see the results as soon as possible.
With me, we will set clear goals and work on specific activities during and between appointments. I will provide coping skills, tools, resources, and questions to consider during and between sessions. This approach has helped many, especially those who haven't found lasting success in counseling before.
You're in the right place if YOU are...
• Feeling like you've tried everything but nothing will work
• Having a hard time saying "no" and struggling to set boundaries or reinforce them • Highly critical on yourself and others • Struggling with low self-esteem or not feeling "good enough" • Isolating yourself because no one "gets" you • Noticing strong feelings but don't how to deal with them in a healthy manner and end up pushing them away • Noticing irritability and lashing out on others, especially the people closest to you • Often noticing yourself going into shame spirals and feeling overwhelmed and stuck in them • Feeling like you have to hide parts of yourself to be accepted • Seeking validation and approval from others and question your own judgment and decisions • Feel like it's your responsibility to anticipate the needs of others fearing what would happen if you don't |
With yourself
You're feeling anxious, angry, upset, or a mixture of these emotions. You ask yourself why you can't stay happy for long periods of time and often shame yourself for feeling a certain way. Pretty soon, you're running away from discomfort, may it be through watching TV, browsing social media, eating, people pleasing- you are handling issues in ways you don't like. When you're not busy, you feel uncomfortable sitting with yourself and the emotions, which leads you to distract yourself again.
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With Others
You're feeling like they don't understand you; there's either too much fighting or avoidance of fights altogether. There is tension, where you feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Close relationships can often trigger surprising and intense feelings, and you don't know what to do except what you know how to do. This can be especially challenging for people who grew up with challenging family relationships in childhood since relationships often resurface emotions related to what we learned growing up, our fears, and the way we feel about ourselves. |
how do I have healthier relationships with myself and others?
Identifying that you want to have healthier relationships is the first step! The more you are able to increase awareness, identify, develop your own self-love and compassion, and work on your issues, the deeper your connection with yourself becomes, and the more you can show up for others in a way you are happy with.